I truly resonate with a lot of what you said here. As I was reading, I was actually feeling upset because it reminded of past memories. People only wanting to be around me just for what I can do for them. But then when I tried to connect with them, they were "too busy." People using others is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves! It's the easiest way to get me away from you. I had to cut off a lot of people from my life because I value my peace and sanity too much. I refuse to be taken advantage of for the sake of saying "I have someone to hang out with."
For a long time, like you, I was extremely suspicious of those were nice. And to be honest, I still find myself doing that sometimes. But like you said, we can't place everyone in the same category. There may be a lot of people who are for self...but there are still genuine people out there. I know that when the time's right, God's gonna bring those people my way.
I appreciate your transparency on this topic. Good to come across someone else who has had this same experience and feelings!
Thank you for sharing this, Ashante, it really means a lot. I completely understand that feeling of being “valued” only for what you can give, not for who you are. It’s exhausting and disheartening, and like you, I’ve had to let go of connections that cost more than they gave.
I love what you said about valuing your peace and sanity, that’s something I’ve been learning to protect too. It’s true, suspicion can become second nature after repeated disappointments, but I think the beauty is in being able to heal enough to still leave room for the right people when they come.
It’s comforting to know there are others out there holding out for genuine connections. I’m glad this post connected with you in such a real way. 💛
Yes, it's very exhausting! I don't have the time or patience for it.
It's great that you're learning to protect your peace and know your self-worth. It's so important!
And you're right, while it's always good to use discernment, we shouldn't allow our suspicions to possibly block us from those who God has for us. It's something I gotta keep reminding myself of because many people can't be trusted.
Jo, this is such a heartfelt piece. I could feel every beat of it—the loneliness, the tiny hope when Abby came along, and then the sting of realizing it wasn’t real. The “serial killers vs serial borrowers” line? Golden😄. And that bit about not knowing how to “water down” love? Relatable.
It's sad but I am glad that you are reflecting on it now.🤗❤️
Mine is pushing people away when ever I am low and somehow the friendship will not remain the same after.
There are beautiful friendships out there Joanna.
Open your heart more.🌸
Thank you Hidy ❤, I'm trying to do that now. It would be a shame to deprive myself of that
I truly resonate with a lot of what you said here. As I was reading, I was actually feeling upset because it reminded of past memories. People only wanting to be around me just for what I can do for them. But then when I tried to connect with them, they were "too busy." People using others is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves! It's the easiest way to get me away from you. I had to cut off a lot of people from my life because I value my peace and sanity too much. I refuse to be taken advantage of for the sake of saying "I have someone to hang out with."
For a long time, like you, I was extremely suspicious of those were nice. And to be honest, I still find myself doing that sometimes. But like you said, we can't place everyone in the same category. There may be a lot of people who are for self...but there are still genuine people out there. I know that when the time's right, God's gonna bring those people my way.
I appreciate your transparency on this topic. Good to come across someone else who has had this same experience and feelings!
Thank you for sharing this, Ashante, it really means a lot. I completely understand that feeling of being “valued” only for what you can give, not for who you are. It’s exhausting and disheartening, and like you, I’ve had to let go of connections that cost more than they gave.
I love what you said about valuing your peace and sanity, that’s something I’ve been learning to protect too. It’s true, suspicion can become second nature after repeated disappointments, but I think the beauty is in being able to heal enough to still leave room for the right people when they come.
It’s comforting to know there are others out there holding out for genuine connections. I’m glad this post connected with you in such a real way. 💛
Yes, it's very exhausting! I don't have the time or patience for it.
It's great that you're learning to protect your peace and know your self-worth. It's so important!
And you're right, while it's always good to use discernment, we shouldn't allow our suspicions to possibly block us from those who God has for us. It's something I gotta keep reminding myself of because many people can't be trusted.
Jo, this is such a heartfelt piece. I could feel every beat of it—the loneliness, the tiny hope when Abby came along, and then the sting of realizing it wasn’t real. The “serial killers vs serial borrowers” line? Golden😄. And that bit about not knowing how to “water down” love? Relatable.